June 27, 2014
8Tracks: Running Water

Running Water from thiswomanswork on 8tracks Radio.

Playlist! Run, water, run!

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June 25, 2014
Crying in front of your counselor

Crying in front of your counselor

depression-insideI generally don’t think that your therapist’s personal experiences can tell you whether or not he or she will be a good therapist or the right therapist for you but there is one exception to this: I think every therapist ought to have had his or her own therapy. Not just to work through our stuff (‘cuz we all have stuff), but to intimately know the vulnerability of pouring your heart out to a…

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June 23, 2014
It’s not suffering that does damage

It’s not suffering that does damage

"It's not suffering that does the damage ..."The parental voice, it’s like the voice of God. It spoke to us with such power when we were small and so we carry it with us for good or for bad.

“Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about!” And we learn that our sadness is not true sadness.

“How can you be hungry? You just ate dinner!” And we learn that we can’t trust our own appetites.

“Come on now, Santa’s not scary; sit on his lap…

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June 20, 2014
Farming it out

shutterstock_43593604As I replied to Helen’s comment on this post, I don’t like to play with my kids. I like to play with other people’s kids in a structured, time-limited way such as the therapeutic hour because mostly what I’m doing is observing; with my own kids I’m counting down the minutes until I can go read my book. I don’t mind occasional (emphasis on occasional) board games, puzzles, building or other…

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June 19, 2014
Reading is a Form of Play

Reading is a Form of Play

flyingbook-insideI can’t remember how old my son was when he stopped playing. One day he was spending hours creating worlds with his little PVC Pokemon figurines and then the next day he wasn’t but I can’t really remember when that was. But I remember that he was sad about it, when his play stopped working, and it made me think about when my big sister came home (at around 11 or 12) from her first babysitting…

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June 16, 2014
8Tracks: Rolling Water

Back in the old days we used to make mix tapes. Then we made mix CDs. Now we make virtual playlists. It’s Monday! Must be time for music!

Rolling Water from thiswomanswork on 8tracks Radio.

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June 11, 2014
The class is going swimmingly

The class is going swimmingly

mama-insideMy husband is participating this time, which is a first. He’s never done that before because the time wasn’t convenient but he was helping me set up and tear down and decided it’d be easier just to stick around and take the class. The class is male-heavy this time around, which is unusual* but great. There’s been a lot of engagement and it’s fun to see what people find new and exciting. Different…

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June 4, 2014
Still time to register

I’ve been working on revamping my hand-outs and adding a Powerpoint (well, Keynote — same diff as we used to say in the 80s!) for the visual learners.

Still time to register

I’ve been working on revamping my hand-outs and adding a Powerpoint (well, Keynote — same diff as we used to say in the 80s!) for the visual learners.

June 2, 2014
Different Kids Need Different Parents

Different Kids Need Different Parents

parenting for attunementI found this write-up of a studythat looked at the impact parenting can have on helping kids cope with depression and anxiety. The study’s authors found that children who were able to regulate their own emotions did better when their parents supported them and gave room greater autonomy in managing their emotions. Children who were less able to regulate did better with more support and…

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May 28, 2014
It takes two (or more)

It takes two (or more)

shutterstock_149643398This is not a post about spanking even though I’m going to use spanking as an example; it’s a post about context and relationships.

When I worked at the women’s shelter in Portland one of our rules was “no spanking in shelter,” which is a good rule for a domestic violence program, right?

If a mom entering the program protested this rule, the intake person would say, “Don’t worry, just make an…

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